“Just be yourself.”
“Play it cool.”
^ Common pieces of advice that have helped no guy ever. If you want to become an effective number-getter, you must do two things:
First, follow the steps below. They are absolutely indispensable pieces of information that make the difference between interactions with women that end in number exchange and interactions with women that are a total flop.
Second, embrace rejection. If you’re not getting any rejections, you’re not making any effort. It is a numbers’ game (no pun intended) – the more rejections you get, the closer you are to someone saying yes!
Tip # 1: Right Place, Right Time. Timing and location are everything when it comes to asking a girl out. Do not do it at the gym while she has her headphones in; do not do it on the dancefloor while she’s jamming out with her friends. Find a moment in which she is approachable and not distracted by 7 other things.
Tip # 2: Eye contact first. You need to make some connection before you walk up and ask for her number. If she hasn’t even had a moment to look at you and size you up, she may feel blindsided by a complete stranger approaching and asking for her number out of the blue. Look at her from across the room, lock eyes for a second, and see if she smiles or waves. If so, that is your cue to approach.
Tip # 3: State your intention. Tell her that you want her number. Be straightforward and direct, stating your intention with confidence. “Can I please have your number?” is passive and tentative; “I want to get your number so I can call you tomorrow” is confident and secure. Advance a statement, not a question. For example:
I’d love to get your number so we can continue this conversation another time.
I need your number! Plug in your contact.
I’ve enjoyed chatting with you tonight, let me get your number.
Go out there and give it a shot! And remember, respect her reaction. If she doesn't want to give you her number, DO NOT pressure her. Rejection is a good thing. Always better to shoot your shot and miss than not to shoot at all.
Kevin Nahai from the Keys Team
Dating & Relationship Coach
IG: @ KevinNahai