Take talking dirty, multiply it by 11, make it intentionally shocking and degrading, and there you have it: Degradation Kink (also known as Degrading Kink). This is the consensual practice of using derogatory names and phrases (bitch, whore, idiot, et cetera) to humiliate and degrade your partner during sex. Intended to be consensual and satisfying for both partners, DK gives slut-shaming an entirely new definition.
Like CNC Kink, DK is an understandably controversial subject. Is it ok to degrade your partner in bed? Isn’t it wrong to dehumanize someone you love and respect?
The answer is: It depends on your definition of OK.
We don’t know the dynamic between two people who enjoy DK. We don’t know if the degrader actually has bad intentions or not, and we don’t know if the degradee actually enjoys it or not. And because we don’t know, we cannot pass a blanket judgment as to what is right and wrong. As long as it is safe, legal, and consensual, we’ll leave each to their own and let you decide.
Some arguments for DK:
Some arguments against DK:
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Kevin Nahai from the Keys Team
Dating & Relationship Coach
IG: @ KevinNahai