“If he asks me to a f*cking dinner date, I’ll be so disappointed.” I overheard these words verbatim, out of the mouth of a co-worker about to go on a date with a 6’ 3” firefighter with the chiseled arms of a, well... firefighter, I guess. It’s been awhile since I went on a first date, so this strong sentiment against ye olde dinner date surprised me. If not even that guy could get away with the tried and true first date of my youth, could anyone? I asked other friends and coworkers in their early 20s. They confirmed; the first impression should not be made while eating. Thus, the dinner date is dead.
I pressed them on the format of an ideal first date if the traditional dinner was off the table and here are the criteria I received: It has to be activity-based, low-stakes, budget-friendly, and must involve both parties meeting at the date location; picking up/being picked up for the first date is a nightmare of awkwardness. Now, just because it’s not a fancy dinner date doesn’t mean food and drinks shouldn’t be part of the event. They are, in fact, the final and most non-negotiable requirement. Below are a list of possible dates for the dinner-averse:
Do you dread the dinner date? If not, that’s ok. Different people like different dates. If you want to stare longingly into the eyes of another while chewing (or drinking coffee), do so with gusto. But make sure you’re excited for the dates you go on, to set yourself up for success. If you need help putting the plans into motion, the PLANS pill can get you started, and you can take it away from there. Whatever you do, may your dates be sunny, safe, and sexy.